A marriage is an asceticism of love for a woman. It is renunciation by a woman who courageously goes to an unknown town/city/country/house. She then slowly tries to adjust herself in this place. A woman does not need to take asceticism.
Remember, she is the Tulsi of someone’s yard. We nurture the holy plant of Tulsi with the right soil and water and in the right place with light. Time is then given to Tulsi which stabilises herself. This Tulsi then becomes so beloved to God that Shri Hari does not accept anything without a Tulsi leaf on it.
Similarly, the wife becomes beloved to her husband. Thus she is an ascetic. Furthermore, the name of a person changes after becoming an ascetic; the father’s name is replaced by the husband’s name once the girl is married. The surname also changes.
This same girl, when her family is struggling for money and happens to go to her father’s house will say to her father, ” Dad, can I borrow some money please? I will return it to you quickly”. At this time, it shocks the father but he also feels proud that my daughter has learnt how to maintain relations from me.
Look at the drastic change she brings in her life! Only a woman can do this. Why? Because one of the characteristic of a woman is flexibility. She is not rigid. She will change and adapt to her new conditions immediately.
If a woman is rigid, she will not blend with everyone at her in-law’s family. There will be conflict every day and she will then cause separation of families. Even after separating, she will quarrel with her husband.